|
Ever struggled to communicate your ideas to a boss, co-worker, or even
your spouse who thinks they know-it-all and can't see obvious problems?
My friend Shelle Rose Charvet
(www.successtrategies.com)
calls this the "Macho Pattern."
When a person is running a Macho Pattern, they operate as if they believe
the following:
- They are better, higher, more important, and more knowledgeable than
anyone else.
- They do not have any problems; everything connected with them is perfect.
- If there are problems, they are of someone else's making.
To make sure that your ideas will pass the Macho Test, learn how to edit
your writing and speaking to match their pattern.
As you examine your written or spoken ideas, is it stated or implied
that:
- There is something they don't already know,
- You are telling them what to do,
- They have a problem and you have the solution,
- They are not perfect in some way, and/or
- You are better than they are in some way.
If any of the above are stated or implied, it will not pass the Macho
Test! You may consider rephrasing as follows:
- As you probably know….(then state the thing you suspect they do not
know)
- Use the language of suggestion: You might consider…
- I understand that other organizations have had this issue and what
some of them have done is…(state how have you solved this problem. This
implies they may have already solved all the problems.)
- With your experience and knowledge in this area … (you're the best
judge of how this idea will benefit or enhance the organization).
- Your role is…. My role is… (establishing different yet equal roles)
You probably already know exactly who the Machos are in your life so
you might consider incorporating these subtle changes into the presentation
of your ideas. I know that other people have this problem and that once
they rephrased their ideas to pass the Macho Test, the people they were
addressing stopped being Macho and became more willing to participate.
With your experience in dealing with Macho people, you will be the best
judge of which of these techniques will best serve you. My role is simply
to identify better ways of motivating people with language; yours is to
implement at least one of these ideas to see how it works.
© Shelle Rose Charvet, Succcess Strategies, www.successtrategies.com.
© 2005 Jay Arthur, the KnowWare® Man, works with companies who want
to plug the leaks in their cash flow and people who want to master the mysteries
of the mind..
To have Jay Arthur to train your staff, contact Jay at (888) 468-1537, lifestar@rmi.net.
 Want
to discover your own "motivation profile?" Go to The
Motivation Profile and take the complete profile online FREE. Compare your
results with your spouse, kids, or coworkers to determine where you are most
likely in alignment and where you conflict. You can also order printed copies
of the motivation profile.
Motivation Profile $5.95 Plus S&H
 Order
Your Copy of Motivate Everyone, from Amazon.com
Or order Motivate Everyone now:
Motivate Everyone Hardcover Book $22.95 plus S&H
Do-It-Yourself Marriage Counseling with the Marriage Conflict Kit! Order Now!
Marriage Conflict Resolution Kit $97 plus S&H
Learn how to think like a comedian! Order Your Seventh Sense Now!
Your Seventh Sense - How to Think Like a Comedian $15.95 plus S&H
To subscribe to this Ezine, go to http://www.motivateeveryone.com/freeknow.html
© 2006 Jay Arthur (888) 468-1537
knowwareman@qimacros.com
KnowWare Site
Map
|
